The Importance of Self-Awareness
By Sgt. Maj. Sean M. Horval
U.S. Army Sergeants Major Academy
June 29, 2020
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Ancient Greek philosophers often preached to “Know Thyself,” a maxim engraved on the temple of Apollo at Delphi. Although this philosophy is centuries old, modern scientific evidence suggests leaders who know themselves and how others see them (a core component of emotional intelligence), are more effective in leadership positions with higher levels of job satisfaction and organizational commitment (Esimai, 2018). Effective leaders learn who they are as an individual and build positive relationships with their subordinates.
The Pursuit of Self-Awareness
Army Doctrine Publication (ADP) 6-22: Army Leadership and the Profession states “leaders require self-awareness if they are to accurately assess their own experience and competence as well as earn the trust of those they influence” (Department of the Army, 2019, p. 1-17). The more self-aware a leader is, the more influence they wield, resulting in a higher level of performance from subordinates. Additionally, leaders who possess high self-awareness understand their strengths and shortcomings and recognize knowledge, skills, and attributes that require improvement (Issah, 2018).
There are two classifications of self-awareness:
Internal self-awareness is the ability to see yourself clearly as an individual.
External self-awareness is the ability to understand how others see you (Taylor, 2010).
Both components are critical to effective leadership and form a guiding principle for leaders to make meaning of the world around them (Walumbwa et al., 2008).
At its core, self-awareness refers to a candid understanding of a person's needs, principles, thought patterns, goals, motivations, emotional reactions, ambitions, strengths, and limitations, and how these affect other people (Issah, 2018). Once this skill is developed and regularly practiced, it allows leaders to better manage their conduct and enhance relationships and interactions with others. Self-awareness allows leaders to project positivity, increasing their effective presence with Soldiers (Department of the Army, 2019). However, self-awareness is not just about what needs to be done; it is also about knowing what not to do.
Misguided Leaders
Regardless of one's profession or career echelon, success depends on recognizing who you are as well as how you come across to others. This becomes more important the higher someone ascends in rank and stature. Because of the positional power senior leaders possess, those lacking self-awareness are significantly more likely to trigger angst throughout an organization and cause derailment (Kim, 2016). Dr. Tasha Eurich (2017) states that the delusion of misguided leaders often grows with rank and seniority because “early successes give way to an intoxicating pride that blinds them to truths they can and should be seeing” (p. 47).
There are three categories of misguided leaders: the lost cause, the aware don't care, and the nudgable (Eurich, 2017).
The Lost Cause Leader
Lost cause leaders remain true to their delusion with a principled, disgruntled, and firm commitment. They refuse to consider any other opinions and anyone who mentions their shortcomings will most likely be subjected to an emotional response. It is unproductive to challenge a lost cause because they don’t realize anything is wrong and refuse to change.
The Aware Don’t Care Leader
The aware don’t care leaders are cognizant of their behavior and the impact it has on others but also refuse to change. For example, an ego-driven senior leader that is demanding and patronizing knows they are negatively regarded by subordinates, but refuse to change because they are set in their ways, or because that’s how it’s always been done. These types of leaders lack humility, and choose to be self-absorbed because they believe their behavior is productive even though it’s harmful to the organization.
The Nudgable
The final type of misguided leader is the nudgable. Unlike the previous categories, a nudgable leader wants to change and improve, they are just not aware of their shortcomings. Nudgable leaders are accepting of constructive feedback, and they act upon it accordingly. They are in pursuit of self-awareness and understand that it is a life-long process that can be difficult, complex, confusing, and sometimes unpleasant. With a supportive team, nudgable leaders can become great leaders.
Ask What not Why
Often, when leaders want to make a change, they ask questions like: Why do I get so mad? Why am I this way? Why am I being micromanaged? Dr. Tasha Eurich states:
Why questions draw us to our limitations; what questions help us see our potential. Why questions stir up negative emotion; what questions keep us curious. Why questions trap us in our past; what questions help us create a better future. (2017, p. 101)
It is important to understand that why questions lead to defensiveness as leaders analyze their behaviors and emotions. This causes them to search for quick answers; however, they only search for answers that confirm their beliefs, and if they cannot find them—they invent them. When people ask why questions they set themselves up as victims.
In contrast, asking what questions leads to introspection and open-mindedness (Eurich, 2017). Leaders should be asking: What can I do to change my behavior? What is going on? What can I do to fix it? What is the best way to handle the situation? This line of questioning translates emotion into language, which then allows the leader to stay in control of their response to the situation. Changing the question from why to what can be the difference between remaining defensive or gaining wisdom and self-awareness.
Conclusion
Deepening the understanding of one's self and the influence they have on the world around them remains paramount to successful leadership. Therefore, to avoid the pitfalls of misguided leadership, self-awareness is a skill that must be practiced often. A self-aware leader not only empowers themselves, but the entire unit as they foster esprit de corps, collaboration, and organizational commitment.
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Sgt. Maj. Sean M. Horval is a former infantry brigade command sergeant major and is now currently serving in the department of command leadership at the Sergeant Major Academy (SGM-A). Horval is a SGM-A class 65 graduate, and holds an Associate of Arts degree from the University of Maryland University College, Bachelor of Science degree from Excelsior College, and a Master of Education in lifelong learning and adult education from Penn State University.
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